Hilchos Niddah: Hatzaas HaMitah, Preparing a Bed, and the Definition of Chibah

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All of a sudden became her issur. I don't know, you know, a lot of the... the harchakos were always... the harchakos were always her. I'm sorry, the harchakos, stay here. The harchakos were always him. And sometimes it says she shouldn't. Here it's a very strong lashon: asurah, asurah. Unless it just means it's his issur and that's why it's asur on her. Who's making the noise? I hear a few... kolot, kolot. You know what, announce for the other people and he'll understand for himself. Okay, asurah. Right, but I'm saying it's asurah. I'm saying a good vort maybe. Since it's her job, that's why use about her. Mashenkin the other ones maybe it's not necessarily her. Tell the guys there, tell the oilem there to just pipe it down. Yeah. It could be, could be. Say a good vort. You hear, say a good vort, that since it's nogea to her because it's her job, ein hachanami it's his issur. Ein hachanami it's him, but it's on her because it's her to do it. So therefore use the lashon asurah. Gershen. That's very good. But I want to innovate, the mechadesh. After learning sif by sif, and we're coming towards the end, a tremendous chiddush. You ready? Things which are asur because of chibah is her. Things which are asur because of hergel davar is him. What are you saying? Nice. Interesting. Nice svara, nice chakirah, tiny, huh? Why? Because things which are b'etzem chibah, so she can't make acts of chibah because to him he can't, right? But if it's hergel davar, usually hergel davar is not for a woman. She doesn't get excited from that. That's not how it works by a woman. A man, by a woman, hergel davar is life. So it could be, could be. Now, and we spoke about this in previous seifim, because some of them are about chibah, some of them about hergel davar, some of them are about both. So I want to give a klal, that things which are about chibah—I don't need any raayos for this now. No, it's the opposite. I know, so later. Things which are about chibah, right, could be is her. B'etzem, acts of chibah is her, not him, kol shekein him. But it's also her. Things of hergel davar is him. L'maaseh, hatzaas hamita — Rashi brings down in Kesubos, samech aleph, that it's chibah. Mezigas hakos and hatzaas hamita is what? Chibah. And that's also in the previous halacha, we medayek that it goes back to her, mezigas hakos. Kol melacha she'isha osah l'baalah, nidah osah l'echutz, mi'zigas hakos. So bishlama, according to what you said, Gershon, it's good, because it's melacha she'isha osah l'baalah. So therefore he stresses she's not allowed to do mezigas hakos, and hatzaas hamita. Oy dilma, the way we're learning, if it has to do with Rashi's pshat of chibah, so therefore chibah zachin, the issur's on her. Him, him kol shekein. But even on her, ma she'ein kein hergel davar things is his. Now you missed a tremendous chiddush. Was it worth it? Was whatever it is worth this chiddush? We just said the yesod of the whole seif now. Okay, listen, magic cup, can you get — let's go, come on.

Usually, till here, the wording of the Shulchan Aruch was about him. Last seif, it all of a sudden became about her. And here we even have a stronger lashon, asurah, mamash issur. So I was telling, maybe asurah doesn't mean asurah, her issur. Asurah might mean his issur. In dikduk, it doesn't have to mean her and not him. Asurah for him. There's an issur for her to do it. I don't mean her issur; maybe it's his issur. Okay. I dilma, you can say what Gershon says, very nice. These melachos are shehaisha oseh l'baalah. These are her chakos. So the chakos of isha oseh l'baalah, we talk about her. It's the things that she has to do, asurah. So therefore we talk about her issur. I dilma, third pshat, right? Pshat number one: asurah doesn't mean her; asurah might mean him. It's asur because of him. Or asurah can mean, like Gershon's saying, her, but it's her job, and therefore it says asurah to her. I dilma, third pshat, since it's about chibah, like Rashi says in Kesubos samach aleph, all things which are about chibah is her as well as him. All things which are about hergel davar is strictly him over her, because she doesn't have it. Lo yochal imah. It's not her. She's not going to eat with him and then have a problem afterwards. He will have it. Meila, lo yochal, he's not allowed. Okay? All right. We're going to further understand this in the context of what we spoke. If we go further in the Shulchan Aruch, to grind and to chip away at the din of the Shulchan Aruch. So first of all, asur. The second thing I want to show you is, it says, Asur l'hatzia mitasoi b'fanav. What about him doing her bed? So the truth is, there's an Aruch HaShulchan, Chochmas Adam, Chayei Adam, that says that it's referring to him as well. It doesn't have to mean in halacha, the Shulchan Aruch is referring to him, which means just like she's not allowed to make his bed, he's not allowed to make, what, her bed. Kemo shehu asur la'asot hamitah shelo, hu asur la'asot hamitah shelah. Her bed. So the question becomes, l'maaseh Shulchan Aruch doesn't say it. Asurah, she's asur to make, so say it. Say clearly that it's asur for him to make her bed. So the way Gersh is learning is, gor gorgeshmak. Why? Because since it's about she's mechuyev, and therefore that's why it says asurah, he's not mechuyev to make— I mean, usually it's not that way. Usually it's not that the husband is doing the housework. So therefore the halacha is brought derech olam. Derech olam is she makes for him. And hachanami, if he would make for her, it would be the same problem. O dilma, maybe not. Maybe it's not about him to her. It's only about her to him. Because it's not about chiba b'etzem. If it's chiba b'etzem to make the bed, so we could come and say it works both ways. But if it's about hergel davar, and what do I mean by hergel davar? You make the bed, the next step is to sleep in the bed. It leads, it leads. Leads is not a halacha by an isha. So for the ish to make the ishah's bed, you're not going to have a problem. Again, if there is an act of chiba to make someone else's bed, right, so l'choira you could clarify it should go both ways. But if you learn that it's hergel davar, which means preparing the bed, and the next step is they'll sleep in the bed, maybe hergel davar is not something neged her by him making the bed she'll come to sleep with him. The only question would be is why can't you work the other way? By him making her bed, he'll sleep with her. But what's the whole reason for chiba? Isn't it hergel davar or something? No, I don't think so.

What happened? Can't touch, can't touch. Especially you, you're a newcomer. Okay. I want you to pay attention to what I'm saying, because I, at no point when you learn this do you go there. I don't think anybody would. Did you go there to what I'm saying now? Did you go there? Why not? It's an interesting shaila. Forget about the lomdus, just the actual shaila. Did you clarify if it works between him to her? Did you clarify about it? You didn't think it was asur if it is chibah. Okay. Huh? He said that. He says it like me? That's right. That's what I like. I like it. Who says this? See? ... Have it ... derech chibah. You see, what I'm saying is that for him to make for her chibah. But if the pshat is hergel davar, I don't know. I don't know what's the issur of chibah. The issur chibah is to do things which show extreme closeness. I mean, מה לי, hergel davar. That's what you said. I want to know. I told you not that way. You could say, you could say whatever you want. I'm saying, but it doesn't have to be that way. There's one thing which it's asur be'etzem because of chibah, and then there's another thing which is not necessarily צריך להיות chibah. Chibah is nogea to both of them? I can't. I mean, the closeness is between two parties, and both have a problem with chibah. But hergel davar might be a one-sided, a one-way street. So for him to make it for her wouldn't be such a big problem. Oy dilma, you'll ask, but he'll have the problem. The problem is if he makes her bed. Yeah, but could be that's not hergel davar because it's not normal for him to make the bed. Chibah, yes, that's what I'm trying to tell you. If you learn chibah, yes. But if you learn hergel davar, maybe not. Maybe he makes the bed, it's something strange. Obviously he's doing housework. He's not, right? And she doesn't take it that way, because hergel doesn't work from her to him. Hergel works from him to her. I'm saying yesod. I hold I'm telling you a beautiful yesod. Whenever it's about chibah, it's two-ended. It's him and her, because the chibah is between the two parties, and that's asur. Whenever it's hergel davar, it's his problem, not her problem. Now you ask, what about the hergel davar of him? It's not hergel davar, because most men don't make the bed. It's just not done that way. So it comes out the din of the Shulchan Aruch is meduyak. So let me say it again one more time, because I think we're learning beautiful, beautiful pshat, Shulchan Aruch giluy. And this is not going to be so much close. You see that they were inching towards that, but they didn't say it mamash in the Shulchan Aruch. So let's say it again. We began with the diyuk: asurah. Ooh, all of a sudden she's asur. We never found that till here, to use the lashon asur. The best we had was by mezigas hakos, she shouldn't. They didn't use such a strong lashon of asur. So we could come and say, asurah doesn't mean her issur. Asurah maybe is even because of him. Who says because of her? Asurah because of him. The issur is not her issur, but it's still asurah. She's still not allowed to do it. That would be the most simplest way to learn. It has nothing to do with her, but it's still asurah. On whom? On her. Not because of her, because of him. His issur, but it's still asurah. Or we could say what Gershon said, which is a tzad I was thinking. U'mais it's melacha shehi shayach l'baalah. Melacha shehi shayach l'baalah, so therefore, side by mezigas hakos and side by hatzaas hamitah, we talk her, because it's her job. Yes. We don't know that yet. We don't even know that yet. That's another machlokes. We'll see. That's another machlokes. We'll see. We're not holding there. Maybe it's worse, and therefore it's even not... that's already shini. You have to do the sugya shini. We're not holding there. It's machlokes of shini. If it's worse than mezigas hakos, better than mezigas hakos, okay. The other way to learn is that whenever it's about chibah, it works both ways. Whenever it's about hergel...

Davar, it's only the man's problem. And that's why by shulchan, which is hergel davar, only the man's problem. But things which are b'etzem chibah would be whose problem? Everybody's problem. Chibah is everybody's problem. Hergel davar is his problem. Now we have a geshmakte zach, because Rashi tells us that the mezigas hakos in this is about chibah. So maybe the issur is on her. Ah, you'll ask a kasha: so why does it say only her and not him? So the Shulchan says, and hachanami, him also. Pshat, because even like a kallah, if it's chibah and she has a problem, so a kallah shein, he has a problem of chibah, right? The chibah is between him and her, so he's part of it. He's not an innocent bystander, right? But if you learn that it's hergel davar, so we could clarify maybe it's only him and not her. Why? Because she doesn't have hergel davar. Ah, you'll ask a kasha: maybe the hergel davar is he will come to live with her. Yeah, but it's not hergel for him, making the bed. That's not hergel davar. You don't have that. Okay. Let me ask you a shaylah. What would be if she makes his bed, but not for him? The in-laws are coming, and they're giving them the bedroom. Or in some homes, anybody's coming, some people are makpid not to give away their bedroom to strangers. So not tznius, that, that, blah. Parents they give. Some don't even give to parents. Some parents don't want it. It's very hard to put rules about is it right, is it wrong. It has to do with the attitudes of the wife usually. Some women don't care so much. It's not a big deal somewhere. Should the man care? I don't think so. It's a little bit childish on the man's part, you know. Unless it's a stranger, but parents, let the parents sleep in the bedroom, big deal. Unless the woman has psak pardes. So it's really worked the other way around. In other words, if it's a mother-in-law, right, so she won't care, right? Her parents would be okay for her, right? And his parents is always a problem. And for you it shouldn't be a problem because you shouldn't care about these things. I'm just talking about hashkafically, you know what they say. A guy once said that he's very much mechabed his wife's mishpacha more than his. That's right. He used to say, I'm mechabed my wife's family more than me. I'm mechabed her in-laws more than I'm mechabed my in-laws. Mechabed his wife's mishpacha more than his. Yeah, because he's mechabed his wife's in-laws more than he's mechabed his own. Okay, you hear the nekudah? Okay, so this is all side information about scenario. What's l'maaseh halacha? When you make his bed in front of him, but it's not for him to sleep there. So I want a ta'ina that has to do with what I just clarified. If the taich is that there's a hergel davar, so what's the difference who it's for, really, right? I mean, the pshat is she's making the bed, and then the next thing, he might come to sleep in the bed. So what's the difference what's in her head why it's being done? But if it's being done for somebody else, and you know, and she knows it, so she's not doing it for you. Harkert, she's doing it not for you. So maybe there's no problem chibah. You hear? You hear? Imagine, you hear? Halacha l'maaseh, where are you? Are you listening to me? You hear what I'm saying? Very nice shaila. The in-laws are coming, you're giving away the bedroom. So she's making the bed in front of you, but it's not for you. It's your bed, but it's not for you. So I want to clarify: if it's al tzerech gufo, so she can't make your bed because of tzerech gufo. So what's the difference what's going through her head? But if the pshat is that it has to be chibah, could be. Yeah, maybe it's not a chibah. I would say that it'd be talui in this shaila, and since l'maaseh Rashi says it's because of chibah, so maybe it's mutar. I would be matir. If you pasken that it's because—he speaks about the shaila over there. No, I'm saying, maybe, maybe no. Does he? So come, sit down. Where are you going? You're too cold. You hear? You hear? Very nice psak, halacha l'maaseh. If your wife makes the bed for somebody else, it's your bed, and you're standing there, you hear? It's mutar. If you hold that it's chibah, al tzerech gufo, l'choreh you should still have a problem.

And since the Meiser Rashi paskens chibah, so maybe it's mutar. What do the cheating books say? Nothing say. Okay. Now I have another shaylah for you. Sometimes you don't mamish make the bed, but you straighten it out. It's a little bit crumbled, so you go and you're smoothing it, you fix the pillow a little bit. Is that a problem? You didn't make the bed; someone else made the bed. So the kid went and he crumbled it a little bit. It wasn't made perfectly. Shall I touch it? There's an issur negiah. V'lo soichel mimenu, v'lo sigal bo, like by eitz hadaas. Prisas sadin. Who? It says over prisas sadin. Right, so. She's making or unmaking? No, prisas means she's making. She puts the bed, she puts on the sadin, she straightens it. She's fixing the bed, or she's making the bed? She's making the bed. That's called making. She puts the sadin on, or we're going to discuss, or just even the blanket. So you wake up in the morning, she's fixing the bed. Is that called hatza'as hamitah? According to many poskim, yeah. I'm going to be mechadesh soon that she's allowed to make the beds in the morning, which nobody else holds. Most people hold not like that, but we're going to discuss that. The sugya over here is to make the bed neat, nice, before sleep. That's what it says here, okay? So I'm telling you like this: what happens if I didn't mamish make the bed? Didn't mamish make the bed, but whatever it is, I'm straightening it out. I'm ironing it. You're fixing it, straightening it out. Okay. Okay. Now let's go further. Before we machria this part of the safek, let's go a little further. In the morning, when you make the bed, what are you making the bed for? Are you making the bed that it should be comfortable to sleep? Or are you making the bed it shouldn't be messy? It should be nice. I hold that that's not what this Shulchan Aruch is about, and I'll tell you a meidi chiddush. You know what Hergel davar is? Hergel davar is because in the olden days they used to straighten out the bed before they went to sleep. Hergel davar is not that you see her touching your bed and therefore, oh, bed, and, you know, all of a sudden your mind starts to wander about the bed. It has nothing to do with that. The hergel davar is because she's taka doing what they did before you start to be with your wife. They taka made the beds clean, cleaned the beds. They made it clean. They straightened out the bed, the sadinim. You hear? Two things. Today we don't do that so much. Some do have. Some have this mishugas that they have to sleep in a bed and the bed has to be perfect and the blanket has to be under the mattress and then the pillow has to be in the right place. I can't tell you, I have no clue about that. That's like out of my ballpark, you know what I mean? I don't know anything about blankets and pillows and I can sleep with a pillow, without a pillow, yeah blanket, not a blanket. It's all not negea to me, right? But we could clarify. My chair, that's where I sleep, right? But l'maaseh, possible. That's us, a chair. That's us. I will talk about that. It's a very nice ha'arah. What are you laughing? I'm going to speak about it. We'll speak about a lounge chair. We'll speak about a couch. We'll speak about a—what's the other type? There's a lounge chair and a recliner, the different types of chairs. We'll talk about all these cases later. But first, let's get to the bottom of the halacha, okay? So what do we have here? That hatzaas hamitah is not just because she's making nice, nice to your bed. That's not what it is. Hatzaas hamitah is the preparation for the sleep, preparation for the sleep, that it should be a made bed. Now, it's hard for me to say that in the morning when you make the bed, that that's what your kavanah was. And I'll tell you further: let's say on Shabbos, are you allowed to make a bed? So those that make the beds in the morning because they want the bed to be neat, avadai you're allowed to do it, because you don't want a messy bed. Mashenkin, if you learn that the making of the beds is always for the night, that's how you explain making beds, then it'll be asur because of hachanah. In understanding this seif, we'll be nogea to hilchos Shabbos. If the pshat is making of the beds in the morning is the preparation for the sleep, then it will be asur on Shabbos. But if the making—what we make beds in the morning—is not about the sleep, that's right. Right. Ozeh, ozeh. If you hold that it's mutar for nidah, asur for nidah, if you—

Hold, tasafah nidah, then it's asur for Shabbos, not for keri. If you hold it's asur for nidah, then it's asur for Shabbos. Ma she'ein kein, if you hold it's mutar for nidah, mutar for Shabbos, you should hold it's mutar for nidah. What do they say about dishes? What is this? Nachami, by shalshudas, because you don't need it. That's already too... And a Chanami, and a Chanami, if you're expecting guests and you don't want them to walk into a house that's very messy, and a Chanami. You know what? Then it's mutar. Rabbi Wolk paskens in such a case it's mutar. If you can't be soivel the kitchen the way it is on Shabbos, even if it's 20 minutes before Shabbos is over, then that's you. You can't be soivel; it's a cleanup. There are a lot of women, there are a lot of women that can't take the mess of shalshudas. They clean it, and a Chanami, 100% mutar. Halachah l'maaseh, why shouldn't it be mutar? I don't enjoy my Shabbos. Again, so then it's not bifshabbos. But if it is for Shabbos, then it's mutar. Halachah l'maaseh, if by shalshudas, yeah. Later, we're going to do that in about 40 minutes. We're not holding it yet. Okay, now. So al kol panim, we have now established that making the beds in the morning, you have to know what the etiquette is. Is it about later, that when you come you should have a nice bed to sleep in, then it's asur, and then it would be asur on Shabbos. But if it's that you should have a neat room, then it should be mutar. For the same reason why the poskim are matir on Shabbos, I would say it's mutar even on nidah, even for nidah. Okay. Now what about straightening out the bed? Now this, I had—this is where I was a little bit confused. You believe that at any given point, to make it flat and straight, and it has to sleep. You want to tell me when a person sleeps, it stays that way? Or there's a certain geshmak to go into bed when it's so perfectly made? I don't know. Huh? It's more—it's more—what? But if it's more, you hear what I'm telling you? If it's more about the sleep, so the straightening out to be perfect is not the issur. Let's see the lashon. What does it say in the lashon over here? L'hatzia. Prisas sadinim. Maybe this is not called prisas sadinim. Just because you stood there and you smoothed it out means to put it on, like. Usually the sadin would fall off. The sadin—you don't forget, in the old days the sadin not necessarily is like the way we have today, that it was a satin, it was a thing, and then when you slept it fell off. The mitzah, you got up, it was off. So to put it back on is called l'hatzia. But to make it mekup, to make it perfect, neat, clean, that it should be beautiful, that's not sleeping. Huh? Yes, I agree with you. That's right. That's the chumra that comes out, that to put the blanket on would be asur. You know, I'll tell you a hechsherdike raya, because look at the last lashon. Aval hatzaas hakarim v'haksasos. What does hatzaas mean? What does it mean? I don't know. Hakarim is the pillow. How do you spread a pillow? It's very hard. I don't know how you do that. See, so maybe, I'm not sure. You're saying what? Make it leveled, you fluff it down. But not like that. You have the pillowcases, putting the pillows in the pillowcases. See, because you have hain tikah sagus. That doesn't say that. No, he's right. Latzia means to put linen on top. That's the word latzia in English, in the Hebrew language of today, he's right, that's matzia. Matzia, huh? That's why it's mutar. But I'm just telling you, but the case, I want to know what the story was. I took a pillow and what? What did I do with it? It התורה says, placed it where it belongs. What are you trying, Reb Yitzchok? Are you masking with me? And the Chachamim. So it comes out that Rabbi Wolk disagrees with everybody else on many different points. The first thing is, everybody says you should make the beds, make the beds. The second thing is that nobody says you're not allowed to just put the blanket on top, and then you're not allowed to put the blanket on top. I don't think so. Why not? No, you can't put the fluffed beds. You're not allowed to put it on top. Why, why not? Because you're preparing it for sleeping. Well, let me—I'll answer the phone. Another law, I'll take care. Tell your mother-in-law to come in. I'll answer it. I'm going to have to fight with my—this is going to be a...

It's going to turn into a war. You see it already. It's only, it's a mother-in-law. It's not my mother-in-law. If it'd be my mother-in-law, it'd be Amalek. It's his mother-in-law. It's on the record. Okay. Yeah, it's on record. You see, you have to learn. You have to watch every word you say. You never know when you're going to be taped. All right. בקיצור, so what do we have here? You know my vort. Every time I take my mother-in-law to the thing, it's the mitzvah of שילוח הקן. I take her to the airport, I'm mekayem the mitzvah. שלח תשלח את האם ואת הבנים תיקח לך. למען יאריכון ימיך. It says clearly. It's good for health, your health and sanity. Okay, let's go weiter. למען יאריכון ימיך. I think I'm laughing. Every time I take her to the airport, I always call my friends, I tell them, I'm mekayem mitzvah שילוח הקן. All right, let's go. בקיצור, רפאל, you hear? So you think I'm going to give you coolers, a mixed big. I'm giving you a mixed big. And you know why? It's because I like to get down to the truth, not dumping a towel. What I'm doing is I'm preparing your bed. What's, nice? You need nice when you go to sleep. Okay, so you know what? I'll tell you though. I don't know, I'm just telling you that the diukim in the Shulchan Aruch is something about even by a pillow, which I don't know, because maybe we don't have the same pillows. Maybe in the old days the pillows were like bed sheets, I don't know, you know. But the pillows of today, not because of difficult. Forget about difficult. What's the metzius? What am I making? I'm putting a pillow there. What am I making? That's up of preparing the bed for sleep. Any time you prepare the bed for sleep, that's the issur of this din in Shulchan Aruch. This mechayes not preparing is going to be a tremendous deal from lying down and straighten that thing out. There's no—what's wrong with it? It's not even a preparation. I just put it there. Now he's going to have to stretch everything out to be comfortable. That's what I'm trying to tell you. Anything which is meant, anything which is meant to prepare for the sleep, that's asur. Just anything which you see is just there to straighten out, to make tidy, neat, that's going to be mutar. He says this? He says this? Let's read it. He says it, read it. Right. He says that. Oh. This you said, but I'm going further. I'm saying a tremendous yisod. What I'm saying is, it comes out a chumra from this, that in case I put it preparing for the sleep, I put it on the bed, then I make it neat and tidy, that would be asur. If you're using his kula, then you have a chumra. If you're using the kula of hachana l'sheina, so when it is hachana l'sheina, then it would be asur. Yeah, I'm telling you, this yisod. Okay. Now, we're going to go and say some more chiddushim, and this I know nobody speaks about. It's innovative, but it's good. What happens if there's a maid? That always makes the beds in the morning. So you can't come and say that you're making the beds is only for the nikui habayis, because for the nikui, for the cleanliness, there's a maid that always does it. You hear? So the fact that you're doing it now, that could be a problem in this halacha. If you're saying, My cheshbon, because I always do it for the cleanliness of the house, that you don't have over here, because the shifchah always does it. You have a maid. Why would you do it if the maid is doing it? Well, you don't know. When there's a maid, there's really no reason in the world you should make the bed. You should. You should. Except if you are Rav Ruderman. You know the story of Rav Ruderman? I told you the story. I heard this from Reb Chatzkel Roth's son-in-law, who is the satmar dayan of Borough Park. Reb Chatzkel Roth's son-in-law is the satmar dayan of Borough Park. So he told me the following beautiful story. Rav Ruderman went to Toronto to collect money. He went to collect money in Toronto by a gvir that used to give money to, and the gedolim used to come there to sleep.

His house. Kitzur, the next week after him, Rav Ruderman's going, Satmar Rav went to sleep in this person's house to collect money. Shh. Kitzur, what happened was that in the morning—I'm sorry, it's the other way around. The Satmar Rav was there the first week and Rav Ruderman was there the week after. Kitzur, so Rav Ruderman was very upset that the maid didn't make the beds, you know, slopotke, litvish, the bed has to be clean. So he went to the balabos and he said, You should know it's taka wrong, and the maid, you pay her money, she doesn't clean the rooms and make the beds. She goes, You're right. I'll speak to her about it. So when he spoke to her, the maid said, It's not my fault. I was under the assumption that rabbis make their own beds in the morning. Why? Because the Satmar Rav was there the week before, and the bed every morning was made. The real reason why the bed was made, because Satmar Rav didn't sleep in a bed; he slept in a chair all week. No, he didn't. The Satmar Rav didn't lay down in a bed. It was a sheet that by him, ... he would not sleep in a bed. He slept in a chair, Satmar Rav. Something was clothing. Satmar Rav never took off his clothing. During the week, Satmar Rav never took off his clothing. So you do it. Satmar Rav never— No, but it's true. The story itself is written in a Peisach Krohn's book. Okay, okay. Shh. Don't need all the history. Okay. Shh. Come on, boys, come, please. It's becoming difficult. Let's go. Kitzur, so therefore, when I came in the morning, I didn't make the beds because I figured the Rabbi Ruderman is going to make his bed, you know. So what is a chassid when he hears this story? Gets very excited, a Rebbe, ... sleeping in a bed. Rav Ruderman's reaction was, How can you believe her? Masiach lefi tumo, kfeilah. He says, Take a look, the chiluk between a chassidish and a Litvish. A chassidish right away, it's, Ah, mamash, I'm oifes in the Rebbe. And the Litvish right away was digging, I don't believe it. ... Okay. Kitzur, the point being, when there's a maid, there is really no reason for you to make the bed. That's the job of the maid. So for you to go and claim that it's al tznius habayis, maybe not. But I want to clarify an interesting thing. Are you allowed to make the bed together with the maid? Or are you allowed — is a wife allowed to make it? It happens a lot, by the way. Let's say they're in a rush. Let's say they're in a rush and they're busy, so what you do is you quickly, let's make the beds, and you do it together with the maid. Or not a maid. Two people, a wife and a daughter, they'll make the beds of the father. I hold it's a beautiful ... Nobody talks about it. I hold it's a very nice ha'arah. If you learn that a woman is not allowed to make her husband's bed, so shnayim she'asu, you have to get into the halacha of shnayim she'asu, lamdus, zeh yachol v'zeh yachol, I don't know. By dilma, you could come and say that that's not chibah. Once you make it together with somebody else, it's not chibah, and that's how I would pasken. Mistama, if it's made together with somebody else, you see that it's not about chibah, it's about making the beds. Maskim? You like the psak? Very nice, no? Very nice. Reb Shevet ... didn't talk about it. Nobody talked about it. Huh? I think so. And it's very — again, I'm telling you, l'maaseh, sometimes a wife comes and says, Help me make the beds. So together with the daughter, they make the beds. I have a better she'eilah, and that's what I wanted to ask: What happens if you make it together with the husband? Neither. You can't. You don't hold it together. She does one part. She puts it on, and you put the other side. You don't see her doing it; it's befanav. You have to, you have to. You have to. It's befanav. Yes, it is befanav, because he's doing it. I just told you, it's befanav. So what's what? The shaila is, but she didn't do the whole thing, and they did it together with somebody else. It's a very nice svara, that nobody talks about these shailas. Only me. Only I come up. But it's not a giluy milsa. It's not a giluy milsa. Let's say, we're going to soon discuss parts. What happens if someone puts on the linen and the other person puts on the pillow? In the Shulchan Aruch it seems to say together: asur l'hatzia mitaso befanav, v'davka prisas sadinim vhamichsa. What about prisas sadinim oi hamichsa? It has to be together? It has to be both? It has to be pillow and blanket together? Sheets and blanket? Sha... no, I don't want to...

You know what? It's becoming too much. Everybody's butting in. Don't butt in. So, shh, yeah? Does it have to be sheets and blanket as a set? Or maybe any part, any one part of making of the beds is aser. Badei HaShulchan and most Acharonim say it's either/or. It's just, he's giving examples. Okay, it's either any, I don't know. I'm going to assume clear that today's times, there's different parts to the bedroom set, the bed, the bedding. There's ruffles, there's bed sheets, there's bedspreads. I don't know. What are you laughing? What are you laughing about? You like these shailas, no? How come the Chut Shani doesn't ask it? You know why? Because he never heard of these things. It's only in America. How come the Shevet HaLevi didn't discuss ruffles? And the teretz is, he thinks ruffles are chocolates. He would think ruffle has to do with chocolates. He wouldn't know exactly what you're talking about. Okay. So, b'kitzur, we've clarified the following. Write this down on the side of your Shulchan Aruch. Write it. This is a very good ha'arah. One, wife making together with maid. And two, let's go one step further: wife making together with husband. Ah, everybody starts yelling at me, You can't touch it together with your husband. I never said together with her husband, mamash. Half and half. Um, I wouldn't go so far as to say if a husband and wife did it together, unless it's obvious that they're rushing to clean the house because guests are coming. Unless it's obvious that their mind is completely not on chibah. I wouldn't use this as a heter, but maybe, yeah, b'shaas hadchak where it's late and she's nervous and she's yelling and she's screaming and she's going to turn the whole house upside down. No, she needs help. There was a quick help. Her husband's not doing it. She wants to do her ... and his mother's coming in two minutes. Eh, chanami. Okay, eh, chanami. I don't know. Maybe. But first of all, yeah, chanami could be if it's sheloi derech chibah. If it's obvious she's yelling and screaming while she's doing it, then it's mutar. I don't know, but no one could write that in a sefer. How would you write in a sefer, if your wife is yelling and screaming at you and she's cursing the living daylights out of you while she's changing the linen, maybe it's mutar? What do you say? It's derech chibah. Wow, I love what you... This is my wife, I'm so... And she spills it on you. And she spills... I don't know, it's a good hora'ah, maybe. Did you ever think about that? Let's say she brings you a cup of wine and tells you, I wish you'd choke on it. I hope you... She brings in the food and she says, I hope you have a ... with it. I don't know, it's a nice hora'ah. She gives him keys in his hand and, I hope you get in a car accident. Yeah, I don't know, it's a good hora'ah. I don't know. It's a very nice hora'ah. One second. You don't think it's a good she'eilah to ask somebody? In other words, what we're doing here is saying, if it's derech... Yeah. Saying, in other words, what we're coming down to is if it's derech chibah, yeah, if it's derech chibah. The halachos are really behind it. Maybe, maybe, maybe, I don't know. That's different. That's because they're fixing it. But if, let's say, she takes the keys and throws it at him, what's he going to say? It's asur because you're not allowed to be moshit davar... There's an issur of moyshiadavar. If she goes and she bites him, what are you gonna say? It's a mitzvah of issur of kiruv baso? What are you gonna say? I don't know. She's making the bed's cursing him. Listen, the truth is, I'm talking about crazy cases. She makes the bed and she's nervous, she's yelling at kids. It's a case. I don't know, it's a case, no? By biting and throwing keys, I don't know, that's a little bit crazy. At least in my circles. I don't know what, you know, your circles might be a little more normal. But pashtus, okay, no, I don't have to get into the details in everyone's home. That's called derech chibah by them. All right, let's go weiter. Okay. Okay, again, I'm just pushing the envelope that you should hear the halacha, be magdir the halacha. Okay, now let's move on. If they come to a cottage, you hear? Come to a cottage or a hotel room, and the beds are not made, they have to clean up, they have to, you know. Now, they haven't decided yet whose bed is whose, but she's being matzia both beds, and one of them is zicher gonna be his. Is there an issur hatzaas hamitah on a bed which is not necessarily his, but one of them is hatzaas hamitah?

So I wanted to tie it like this. Is there a halacha about his bed? Does that have anything to do with him, or it's about for him? Tzricha l'hotzia mitaso, so you can come and declare it's about his bed. So where it's not kavua for his bed, then it should be mutar. But if the ta'it is she's not allowed to prepare sleeping for him, it's not about his bed. It's not a din in his bed. She's not allowed to prepare his sleeping, so maybe be asur. Let's go one step further. Oh, you're learning from me how to yell. What happens if it's meyuchad l'shneihem, laro'i — not a couch. It's not called meyuchad, but she's making the bed for him to sleep. It's a couch. You like the horror, right? What happens if you have a couch, and see, you know, he could sleep on the couch, so she makes the bed for him to sleep, but it's not his bed. L'maaseh, it's meant for anybody to sleep there. Is it asur l'hotzia mitaso, or it's — so this is the shaylah. If it's chibah, you'd say maybe it's not his bed, but if it's altz preparing for the sleep, it's asur even if it's not his bed. Could she prepare for him on the floor, sleeping quarters? Could she put out the, what do you call it, the sleeping bag on the floor? She tells him, you know something? That's called derech chibah in certain houses. You'll sleep in the basement on the floor, and I'll put out the what-you-call-it for you. Are you allowed to do that? But she matzia his mita. He's shaking. You like good sefaris, huh? How come the poskim don't talk about this? Beautiful shailas, huh? They talk about in case the wife throws you out of the house and she puts you in the beis hakvaros, and she... Oh, they talk about that. Okay, maybe. Is halacha of mitaso, l'hotzia mitaso, or is the halacha sleeping, preparing his sleeping? So first of all, the nafkamina would be is if it's not designated for him yet. Yeah, but here one of them will be, so maybe that's a little bit worse than the next case, which is miyuchad for both. We have one case where it's not miyuchad for neither yet, yet, and then there's another case where it's miyuchad takah for both. And a third case is there's bichlal no mita there. And she'd be allowed to be matzia his sleeping quarters. It's totally in the shaila. Let's go to another case. We spoke about a couch, right? What about a reclining chair? It's not a bed. That's a place to sleep. It's not a bed. It's not mitaso, but it's his sleeping quarters, right? He sleeps on the recliner. We can come and say like this: there's a chiluk between an allowance chair and a recliner chair, the shem of the chair. Certain chairs are made just to sit and be comfortable. He rather sleeps there, and certain things are like couches which are made to sleep on. Well, let's say she does. She goes, she puts on a... That's right. She opens the chair. She prepares for him his sleeping quarters. Nice aura, right? Then we can clarify. Does it have here, lomdish shaila? V'nira lachkor, is it a recliner, or it's a lounge chair? And blanket to put it on for him? No. So give it is never a problem. She puts it for him to prepare for him to sleep. That's the shayla. Not his bed, but she l'maaseh is preparing his sleeping clothes. It's a beautiful ha'ara, mamash. Now the shayla is a reclining chair. What happens if it's bichlal, he sleeps on a chair? He's the satmar rav or some other rebbe in a yeshiva called El Simcha that sleeps on a chair. What are you going to do then, huh? Could you prepare the chair, make it comfortable, put on a chvaysa, let's say they put a sheet over? It's not his mita, but he grabbed the sleepstick. Where is the chibah? The chibah is in the preparation to sleep, or even more the hergel davar, or is it mita? Something about why. So I want to tell you a yesod. Most people don't make other people's beds unless they have shaychus to them.

Not gonna go make someone's bed unless you're a shifcha and that's your job, or you're a wife, or someone else's husband. I'm saying it has to do with either ishus or job. No, I don't know. When you have a guest, usually you don't make their beds; they make their own beds. So that's a shifcha. So that's a shifcha. And a chinam, it's a very nice ha'ara. That's what I said. If there's a shifcha and you grad don't, but it's a ma'aseh of chibah to make a husband's bed, it should be asur. It's a ma'aseh of chibah, so therefore it's asur. No, I'm saying if it's not befarhes, so just let him go out of the room. Okay. So we've discussed the word asurah. We've discussed the word latzia. What does the word latzia mean? Spread, fix, prepare, straighten out. We weren't sure. Mitato. Also, we were busy with the word mita. What does it mean? It means a place to sleep, where it has to be his bed. Now we're going to discuss where it's not a bed, you hear? And what's asur? What's asur? Prisas sadinim v'hamichsah. What happens if he doesn't sleep with a blanket? He's a hotty. He's hot all the time. He can't take the heat. She doesn't like the air conditioning, so he sleeps without a blanket. Is there a problem of hatzaas hamitah? Talina shaila l'choira, right? If you learn it's preparation for sleep, he doesn't sleep that way. He takes the blanket off. So by her putting it on, it's not called preparation for sleep. But if the pshat is there's a chibah in tikkun hamitah, making of the bed, which means even in the morning would be a problem. Because the making of the bed is chibah, it's hergel, whatever you want to call it, maybe it is a problem, even though it's not a preparation for what? For the sleep. What about to put the padding underneath the sheets? There's a certain padding that they put. A, it's for the cleanliness of the mattress. That's the main reason to put it. That's the main reason to put the padding, the cleanliness of the mattress. So is that called hatzaas hamitah? Now, on one hand, it's definitely— no, it says tircha. On one hand, it's definitely making the bed, right? But you're not making the sleeping. It's not about the sleeping. It's more about the nikui. So we could ask the shaila: is she allowed to put the padding on the bed? What about to put the ruffles? I don't know. Some people maybe need to sleep with the ruffles. I don't know. They need a majestic bed. What is ruffles? Harav Raful from, you know, from— Rav Raful, right. It's all ruffles. Okay. Ruffles is the fancy stuff that they put on the bottom of the beds. You know, they use it when they just buy it and they put it away somewhere. Pictures. Okay. Let's say they put the ruffles, you hear? They're putting the ruffles. Now, so that's called making the bed, but it's not for the tzorech of sleeping, right? So maybe it's mutter. Let's go to another case, you hear? Today, today, you don't sleep without a pillow. Today, you don't sleep without a blanket. Aval hatzuas hakar v'haksus, ashu toirach, because there's a tircha, it becomes mutter. There's no tircha today. There's more tircha in putting on the sheet than there is a tircha to put on the blanket and the pillow, right? So maybe today should be a mini poskim, and I agree with this, that it should be aser. L'choira it should be aser to put the pillow and the blanket. I can't say the sheet's mutter. The sheet's also called matzas hamita. But the head, I know, but I'm not going to be matir. I'm not going to come tell you it's such a tircha that it should be aser. L'choira, if anything, the—

Meaning, would the Shulchan Aruch turn around? L'choira, anything, right? If the whole pshat is that this is a tircha and this is not, so b'zman hazeh where the tircha is the other way around, l'choira it should be mutar, unless you say a gevaldige vort. I want you to listen to this. The word latziach, aval hatzaas hakarim, I don't think it's the same pillows of what we have today. I don't think it's the same thing that hakarim vaksasos. I think it's something else. And has some do with matzia. Just to put it on the bed might not be aser, unless you say you're preparing it for sleep. You hear? If you learn, and that's what I said, asur latziach. What does the word latziach mean? If latziach means any preparation for the sleeping, then the pillow and the blanket is a preparation for the sleeping. And even though in the times of the Shulchan Aruch they would matir it because of tircha, it's very hard to be matir b'zman hazeh because of tircha. There's less tircha involved. I think it must have been a big thing. You know, the way I understand it was, you have to know it was like a big bed, and the mattress, the karim and the ksasos were more like a mattress. You don't mean a pillow that you pick up and put on the bed, because there's no tircha involved. Right, so therefore we have to say that it has to have some do with tircha. Yeah? Is there a tircha to put a pillow on a bed? So it's not that. So that's all. Huh? So that's nonsense. I saw the acharonim talk about it. It's a bunch of stupidity. It's stupidity. You know that it's stupidity, right? It's a big blanket, a small blanket, it's a winter blanket. I saw people talk about winter blanket, summer blanket. It's, it's, it's just, it's bizarre talk. You understand that it's bizarre, that a woman does not have a harder time because it's a winter blanket and a summer blanket and a pillow that's smooth and a feather pillow and a monkey pillow and a... It's bizarre talk. If it's tirchah, it's tirchah. So obviously we don't know the beds of the olden days, and could be it's not negea. It's a pashut zach. Unless you come and say that it has some dood latziah pisa. I don't know. It's more of a—there's more work in just putting it on the bed. That's totally the shaila we spoke about. Is the issur the preparation, or is the issur the making of the bed? Making. It's not kasiyah; latziah, you made the bed, right? It's not just putting the blanket on top and the pillow on top. You know, in Europe, when I went, it was very interesting. It's actually a made bed even with the blanket, you know that? The sheets are put underneath. The blanket is put underneath. It's not just putting the blanket on the bed. In the hotels, we see it in the hotels. I think that's the word, latziah. Latziah is to make a bed. It's not just to put stuff on top of a bed. And therefore, a pillow, which is just to put it on top. Now, the only thing is he's saying a good word. Let's say you have—I wanted to get to that, but he's not here. Obviously he disappeared. It must have been twelve o'clock when the bell rings, you disappear. You know, how does it work? When the clock strikes twelve, right? The pumpkin. Okay. The point being, the point being, at 1:10, the clock strikes 1:10, everybody disappears on me. Pumpkins change. Okay. Point being, where you have a pillowcase. A pillowcase would be like a pillow, like sadinim. Pillowcases would be more like sadinim, and that would be a problem. So even if you were matir, even though that's a tircha, because l'maaseh, sadinim is a tircha. No, I'm saying asur. I'm saying fakert. I'm saying sadinim, right, because it's no different than the sadinim that we have today. Because sadinim is work. You have to move the mattress and put the thing on. It's work, what do you mean? That's what I say. I believe so. I believe that to put a pillowcase on a pillow would be asur. I think so. To put a pillowcase, that's another type of sadin, and therefore it's asur, okay? So we said a lot of chiddushim here. What's your name again? Nata. Nata wants big pillows, small pillows, winter pillows, summer pillows, big blanket, fluff blanket. Nonsense. I think it's all... You asked me, it's a bunch of hogwash. It's very simple. Make the bed asur. Put on the bed mutar. And therefore in America, the din of blanket is not nogea so much, unless you learn, like I said, to prepare for sleep. I don't know, but I want to say chiddush, preparing for sleep.

Latziyah. The ikar nekudah is latziyah. Okay, now let's move on. Okay. A bed cover, a bed cover is definitely not about what? Sleep, right? Because you're covering the bed. So l'choira that's about neat, nice. That, l'choira, l'chol hadeios, I believe, shouldn't be a problem to put a bed cover on top of the bed, and that's not in the klalim of this halacha. So she'd be allowed to put the bed cover, and that's halacha l'maaseh. I think it happens all the time. Women put on the bed covers on their husband's bed, and they're not worried about this halacha. It can be a problem, I don't know, but maybe there's no involvement there. There's nothing to do. You just, again, if you're preparing to sleep, and if the gedarim are preparing to sleep asur, then ein hachanami. So even putting on the blanket or taking off a blanket, or pulling off the blanket, that's what I'm trying to say. If it's about preparing, ein hachanami. Putting on the blanket, taking off, anything that's preparing for sleep is hergel davar to sleep. Are you allowed to prepare the table nicely? Put on a beautiful red tablecloth, lights and the place, romantic, all good to zach, right? Are you allowed to do that? So l'choira, יש תתאצות המיטה. This is not his mitah, right? Zicher not about sleeping, but it's derech chibah, so that's not clearing. Anything which is derech chibah should be asur. So my wife is looking at me going, Who said? Chas v'shalom. You're allowed to be mechadesh that it says mitah. It doesn't say. It says hatza'ah, it says sleeping. Why does the table have to do with sleeping? I agree with you. Shevet Halevi doesn't. Shevet Halevi wants to mechadesh that just like you're not allowed to make a bed, you're not allowed to make a table. Kol davar sheyesh bo yoifi v'chibah, he says, he brings from the Meiri, is taka asur. Chiddush nifla. Even me, I wouldn't do that. But that's what he does, okay? So you should know that in the din of hatzaas hamitah, the word mitah is irrelevant. It's more about what? Hatzaah. Any elegant hatzaah, any spreading of something of elegance. So let me ask you a question. Let's say your husband comes home and you want to pull out for him the royal carpet. He comes home, he knocks on the door. One minute, one minute. You told me I was learned in the shiur that I'm supposed to treat my husband like a king. Let's take out the carpet. Rolls up the carpet over there, and he comes out. It's hatzaah. It's not the mitah. Zecha yoifi. Okay, maybe in Yavneh. I was just trying to give that you should understand the chiddush of the Shevet Halevi. Now, Pesach by night, could she prepare the heseibah, the chair with the pillow and the whatever, however you make heseibah, especially in the old days. Just today the Persians do that. They sit on this couch and lean down. So is she allowed to prepare that Pesach by night where there's an issur hatzaah? Okay. So I want you to know, I believe that there's no problem with it. It's not so poshut, not so pashut. I see Acharonim discuss. This for a case. The Acharonim discuss this for a case. I mean, it's not his bed, right? His kavua. He's grada laying down on it, right? He's not sleeping. He's not sleeping, but she's making his bed. Let's say he makes the bed. Let's say he just rests on the bed. Let's say he has a special bed where he rests and doesn't sleep. It's still asur. It doesn't have to be sleep. It has to be laying on it, right? It's not his. It's pesach bainai. Unless you say that's the chibah, and therefore—so if you learn it's preparation for sleep, avad it's not negea. But if it's chibah, I don't know, she's doing l'shem mitzvah, she's doing it to make the house nice. I don't know, the Acharonim discuss it, the later-day Acharonim, I don't know. To me it's a little weird. All right, let's move on. Here comes a chiddush. You ready? Mutar. I think it's mutar. What happens? Not pillows for the head, but pillows for the feet. She says, Hinche, panche, conche, whatever the names of the ladies that are...

Their husbands, they're good wives, they're b'nos Yisrael with frume b'nos Yisrael. Bring me the four pillows for my feet. And she prepares it on the bed, and it's derech chibah. She says, only a husband who loves her, the wife will do that, right? A wife who loves her husband does it, but it's not for sleeping. I don't know, I don't know. The sefarim don't talk. You know why? Because believe me, the poskim that write these type of sefarim don't have such wives, and don't have such demands from their wives. They don't have pillows. But being a man of the world, we know that it's that way, right? There are husbands that the wife prepare them pillows for the feet. Pillows for the feet. He likes it. See, I learned Shulchan Aruch. You're not going to learn—no one is going to beat me on Shulchan Aruch, you know that? Rabbi Lopian from Mikdash Melech told me that the Beis Aharon, he told me over from my great-grandfather. He said that your great-grandfather once said the following, and he heard this from a mental Kaplan, his father-in-law, mental Kaplan. The Beis Aharon once said, Say what you want about me, but Shulchan Aruch I have in my pocket. That I have in my pocket. That you ain't going to take away from me. We meant to say, you can come and say you like my vort, you don't like my vort, whatever you want. You can argue with me, but you can't argue with the fact that I know Shulchan Aruch. That's what he was saying. He told me another story, Rabbi Lopian told me that the Beis Aharon called a few talmidei chachamim in his shchunah to come speak to him in learning in his old age. Why? Preparation for the bechinah shel maalah. Preparation. He wanted to see what—he wants to be on his guard, like, you know, they should ask him questions. Well, practice, practice for the bechinah shema. I heard from Rav Lopian, he told me. Ah, a nice maiseh, huh? Two beautiful stories, you hear? All right. Now, what about closing the eyes? She's putting... peeking, you're peeking. Not strong, it's not looking, okay? Are you allowed to close your eyes? So Rav Chatzkel Ruz, in the sefer, many other acharonim, the haintige acharonim say, Ah, why not? The whole thing is to see; you're not looking. Yeah, but you know about it. It says, shelo befanav. Yeah, it's befanav, you're just not looking. Maybe he has to go around, maybe turn around. Maybe it's not enough to close your eyes. Maybe he has to leave the room. No. All you have to do is just close your eyes, good enough. All right, that's a chiddush, nice chiddush, to work it out with the word befanav. That's called shelo befanav. Befanav is the eyeballs; it doesn't mean literally befanav. That's called shelo befanav is re'iyah. No, mamash, shelo befanav is re'iyah. Okay. Now, l'choirah, I want to question the whole premise of this. If the vart is that it's chibah to see the way the wife prepares the bed, but if it's preparation for sheinah, where does the problem actually become? In the ma'aseh or the toitzah? See, I'm alive. You see, you knew I was going to go there, huh? This you're not going to find in the books, in the Bichalach, in the sefarim Bichalach, you're not going to find it. Yeah? This is why you come to ohel simchah. Not many come, because they're not... The world doesn't know yet. But you, you, you've noticed the difference between saying, Yeah, your clothes, yeah, young clothes, yeah, okay, good clothes, yeah, old clothes, yeah. Get to the bottom. Is the issur, the ma'aseh seeing it, or is it the תוצאה of that she appeared in front of you that you're asleep? So the problem is having a prepared sleep from your wife. Maybe the vort is that even when you sleep in the bed and you don't know about it, you don't know about it, you didn't see it, you didn't see it. The problem is sleeping in the bed while you know about it, or the problem is once you know about it, you can't sleep in the bed. I'll tell you what, very big nafka mina, very big nafka mina. Let's say she did it already. So the problem was it happened already. It happened already. How could you go sleep in the bed? If the problem is the seeing, all right, what do you want to do? You want to poke your eyeballs out? What do you want to do? It happened already. It happened, so what do you want to do? But if the problem is the sleeping in such a bed, so maybe you shouldn't go to sleep in such a bed. The Shevet HaLevi is matir, yeah. If the Shevet HaLevi is matir if it happened already, it happened already, so what are you going to do? Here it comes, rabosai. Believe it or not, shechiyanu v'kiyemanu.

Chatzgeros says a chumra. Would you believe that? It's unbelievable, hard to believe. Chatzgeros in the sefer, Cheskas Taharah writes, Oh no, just because you know about it, it's too late. It's never too late. Don't sleep in such a bed. What is, a knas? No, don't sleep in such a bed, huh? That's a very nice ha'arah. So that you have to see the psychological evaluation that the Acharonim give. For some reason, if you didn't see it, it doesn't make a difference that you know about it. Let me tell you something, it's that way in all halachos. Seeing is one thing; knowing about it is something else. It's different gedarim. Now, you want to know why the Chachamim made these gedarim, ayin sefer Shivchei Shoyim, all the way down and up, all the sefarim all the way before him and all the sefarim after him, and all the sefarim on the side of him, they all talk about it. It's not mamish, it's loy bifan, bifan is worse. Okay, so what should I do? Chacham knew human emotion better than me, and they said that if he sees it, it's much worse than he knows about it behind his back. Okay, but this is the vort. What happens if it happened already? Says, Hagoyin Hagodol ... and he says, No. So what do you do? He says, Do it again. Do your bed again. What's the problem? She made your bed? Mess it up. Mess it up, and then go make your bed. The pillow is night? Throw the pillow off the floor and pick it up. I don't know, undo it. Soiser al menas livnos. Okay. This concludes the sugya of hatzaas hamitah. Now let's go to the next sugya. Baruch Hashem, we have another eight minutes al pi derech hateva. Al pi derech hanes, we have more time. Don't worry about it. The next halacha is the issur of harchatzah: asurah litzok lemayim lirchotz panav, yadav v'raglav. Afilu eino gazboi, afilu hei mayim, tzonenim, even if it's cold water. Right off the crack of the bat, just to, because of the time, I would like to introduce a chiddush nifla, but I don't believe this halacha is nogea halacha l'maaseh anymore. Next. K'sheim she'asur limzok... Okay, now let me explain what I mean. Today, we don't do that. You know anybody who has a bath because the wife prepared him a tub of water? What is that? Where is that? In the olden days, they used to have to sit there and make the water. Okay, calm down. Relax. Don't get—relax, okay? In the olden days, in the olden days, the way it worked was that they had to make the water and then bring it in a bucket. That whole thing is irrelevant today, okay? Did I say river? Did anyone see a river? Yes, your wife pours water into your bathtub. What do you want? Okay, so that's a different shaila. Maybe it's not this halacha. Maybe it's something else. Old people. Old people? Yeah, they still do it that way? What, they bathe in the sink and you bring them the water? Okay, I don't know what you want. Now, the shaila is only what? You hear? The shaila is a bathtub. Could she put the water on in the bathtub? Then there could be another shaila: could she turn on the water, the shower? So those are really the only two shailos. So the story of bringing you water is irrelevant, right? So we'll talk about it. But before negel vasser in the morning, which I, gadol, hold is not negea halacha l'maaseh, I think it's stupidity. I shouldn't say stupidity, but I disagree with the whole thing, because if you learn the halacha properly, you'll see it's not. That whole thing is completely okay. I don't know. It's not—I don't think it's true, but all right, we'll soon see. The point being, okay, I'm not—but I don't mean it in a serious way. I meant to say it has to be applied. It can't be applied literally by bringing water. For example, I hold halacha l'maaseh that in case the water—there's no hot water, and she's making the hot water, let's say it broke, the hot water thing broke, so what they do is they boil hot water and they send it to the bath, right? I don't hold there's a problem because it's not negeia bismaneso. That's not derech. What about litzok, pouring it? No problem. It's all no problem. There's no problem. I mean, litzok, you're in a bathtub, so it's not litzok. I'm saying the story of bringing water in a keli, preparing for a washroom, is no problem. The din of the Shulchan Aruch, the way it's brought down, l'choira should not be nogea bismaneso. The only way it is nogea is putting on the water for a bath or turning on the faucet for a shower. Now, there's a very big chiddush about the water for the shower, because it's not the same water. She turns on the water and it keeps on going. So again, it's not the din of the Shulchan Aruch. It's really a big chiddush.

If you come and say, pouring the water, turning on the faucet, you've decided that it's that. I can come and say it's not that. I can come and say she turned on the water, but that's not the water. The water is... Okay. Now, let's discuss now the wording of the Shulchan Aruch with this hakdamah. We don't have time. With this hakdamah, with this introduction, that the din of the Shulchan Aruch is not what we think it is. It has to be applied in today's modern technological world. Let's start working on the words of the Shulchan Aruch. Asur litzok lemayim, lirchotz panav, yadav v'raglav. What happens if it's only one of them? Panav without yadav, yadav without... Today we don't. What are we, kohanim today that we wash panav, yadav, v'raglav all at the same time? You know any guy that washes his feet? Arabs need special... You know today they have special bathrooms for Arabs they want to make, because the Arabs go into the bath, to the toilets, and they put their feet into the toilet to wash it for Shacharis, Mincha, Maariv, and Musaf. I don't know how many, they have like six tefillos a day they have. So they want to have in Michigan, they have like six tefillos. Yeah, they kneel all day. They have five tefillos a day they have. And they go into the bathrooms, the public bathroom, they put their feet in the sink, and it mortifies the American people. What do you live? That's what it is. It's a big story. So what they want to have is that they should legally make a special washing for the foot. So I hold it's very... Put your foot in the toilet, what's the difference? Smells. Believe you me, it's right. Okay. Now, b'kitzur, so what it says in Shulchan Aruch here, what it says in Shulchan Aruch, panav, yadav v'raglav. Who washes panav, yadav v'raglav? It's not a chanami. You look at the Badei HaShulchan, Acharonim, it means either/or. Panav or, comma, yadav, comma, raglav, comma. Right? All of it is either/or. Oh yeah, maybe not. I wouldn't be surprised if it's all, and I'll tell you. I want to say a chiddush. No kidding, huh? I'll tell you my chiddush. My chiddush is any bath—don't say the word bath—any washing which is just to remove dirt is not a washing of chibah, and therefore there's no problem. So to wash your hands separately, or to wash your face separately, or to wash your feet separately, all this is done in case the feet are dirty. Poneh yad v'raglav is a type of bath. It's a form of rechitzas ta'anug, and it's the smallest form. Kol shekein kol gufo, kol shekein. That's what it means, lirchotz poneh yad v'raglav. But ein hachanami, if she prepares water, for example, you come in the house and your hands are dirty, yeah? So she opens the sink so you can wash your hands. Lani'ach da'ati, chiddush. Not lahalachah l'maaseh, because it would be very hard to pasken, because I would get right away letters from all over the world putting me in cherem. But nevertheless, in yeshivah I think I could say this with a straight face, that this is not a problem. The issur is a bath. Oh, he's telling you to tell you. You hear what's going on here? He. They say it in English: practice what you preach. Okay, now, I don't care. The Acharonim say that it's separate, I know, and I'm saying not that one. Which Acharonim say it? The other ... said, no, taz is not being fair with me. What? Okay, read it to me. Okay, I'll give you about 25 minutes. There's no problem. When you find it, you'll tell me. Now, netilas yadayim in the morning, or if you hold that you're not allowed to even prepare—forget about washing—but you're not allowed to prepare the water. Is she allowed to prepare the negel vasser in the morning? She prepares the kettle, right, the keili, and she puts it down in front of you. So, yeah, but that's not lichluch. That's lichluch. That's done for dirt. That's derech kibud. What is that? Unless you say that tumah is lichluch, it's a type of lichluch. It's dirt. You want to read it? Go ahead, read it. Read, read, read. It says, read. Read me the Taz. What does it say?

But that's magra. What chumrah, magra? Yeah, but that's what he means. It doesn't mean that there's an issur of yad al tzrichit when you're not being nokei. You're not, you're not. Oh no, oh no. He meant—come on, that's cheap. Very cheap. Okay, very cheap. I wouldn't pay a dime for a chiddush like that, okay? And believe me, I pay good money for other chiddushim. B'kitzur, dvar mitzvah. If I come for a dvar mitzvah, you hear, is there a problem of preparing the water for dvar mitzvah? So, Kaf HaChaim, Eishel Avraham, Butchatcher, Cheskas Taharah, the Chut Shani, they're all nervous, terrible, terrible. You're not allowed to prepare the water for the negel vasser, even though it's a dvar mitzvah. I would say that it's mutar. It's not for lichluch; it's for mitzvah purposes. Especially according to the shitas haShach, there's never a problem of a keli. The problem is only what? Direct. Oh yeah. The Taz—I know what I say, I said the Shach, the Taz. L'shitas haTaz, there's no problem when you prepare the keli. Okay, I guess we'll stop here. Okay, so I can't—I'm speeding through a lot of things that I don't want to speed through. Okay, so what's the— I guess we'll continue this Sunday. How about Sunday? Can we continue Sunday? He doesn't want. You're not gonna be here Sunday anyway, so what's the difference? I know you come. The question is if you come here to my shiur on Sunday.